"Push through the awkwardness, and you will find true intimacy and understanding."
This goes for everything in life...relationships, friendships, family, your job, and yourself.
In terms of relationships, I find this to be a common make it or break it factor. People either let the awkward, less than perfect moments, get the best of them and head for the door...or they sit back for a minute and consider what it is that might be making the situation awkward. Is it them or the other person? Is someone feeling vulnerable for the first time, and so obviously things are out of balance. These moments are wonderful opportunities to really learn about your relationship, the other person, and yourself. If it is you that is feeling uncomfortable...is it because you're realizing how much you actually care about the person and your unsure if they feel the same way? And...quite possibly its awkward because those two individuals just don't mesh well...but that would've/should've been something you realized long before this stage in the relationship.
I'm talking about the point that you truly start to open up to one another and let your affections roam free. You've already realized that the two of you are quite the hot item, you have fun together, share common interests, and values...but now are reaching the cusp of settling into an actual relationship...something a bit more serious. As most relationships have ups and downs, feeling your way through the beginning is most notably awkward and full of surprises. However, when you push through this, you begin to see the rawest aspects of your relationships, and each other. A new level of intimacy is born. The questionable vulnerability is now out of the way, you both realize your here to stay, here for one another, and trust blooms.
It's just like when you hang out with a new friend for the first time, things are a bit awkward since you hardly know one another, but to become friends with that person you have to be willing to feel uncomfortable until you know one another. Once you do, the doors fly open, and the comfort settles in.
I think you catch my drift. There are tons of examples of awkwardness, but think about those moments, what you can learn from them, and what has or potentially will come out the other end. We all had to go through our awkward teenage years to become confident adults, who through testing our boundaries and pushing the limits came to a true understanding of ourselves and how we operate as people. Anytime you start something new, like a job, it's incredibly awkward and a bit off for the first few days, or even the first few months. It takes a while to get it down.
So be patient with yourself and your relationships, appreciate the awkward moments in life, and take a step back to really think about the situation and what you can learn from it.
If you have the strength to push through the AWKWARD, an intimate portrait of life will be at your fingertips. If you choose to run away, you will live on the surface of humanity, and lack fulfillment in whatever aspects of your life you refuse to push through.
DON'T EVER GIVE UP.
Opening...Welcome!
Catch 22-Discovering Life in your 20's is a memoir centered on the tumultuos discovery of life and one's self in their twenties. Who am I? What makes me happy? What makes me sad? What makes me spark? What drives me? What career path do I choose? How do I find my soul-mate? Does a soul-mate even exist? What are the qualities I am searching for in that person? I have found that person...are they right for me? How do I find comfort in my own skin? Am I making the right decisions? Am I being safe with sex and drugs? At what point do my bad habits need to end? How do I budget my money and myself? How do I establish balance in my life? Questions out-weigh the answers, answers that we must continue through this tunnel of experience to understand.
Life is becoming more real every minute, adulthood sinks in, and some of the darkest AND most beautiful aspects of life begin to show face. Some of you will experience heartbreak for the first time, some will experience death, some will enter the work force to discover that the gossip and social politics we dealt with in high school are never-ending.
As we linger on the cusp of this critical moment in time, two steps forward often follow by one step back, frustration and pain interchange with excitement and novelty, and a new sense of discovery is born.
"I've got it!" "I know who I am!" "I know what I want!" These are the statements we proclaim with vigilance...and then there's a CATCH.
Something happens, someone lets us down, life changes unexpectedly and we feel back at square one.
This is the Catch 22--this is the battle of life in our twenties.
Life is becoming more real every minute, adulthood sinks in, and some of the darkest AND most beautiful aspects of life begin to show face. Some of you will experience heartbreak for the first time, some will experience death, some will enter the work force to discover that the gossip and social politics we dealt with in high school are never-ending.
As we linger on the cusp of this critical moment in time, two steps forward often follow by one step back, frustration and pain interchange with excitement and novelty, and a new sense of discovery is born.
"I've got it!" "I know who I am!" "I know what I want!" These are the statements we proclaim with vigilance...and then there's a CATCH.
Something happens, someone lets us down, life changes unexpectedly and we feel back at square one.
This is the Catch 22--this is the battle of life in our twenties.
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